One is born, Rest are reborn

18-OCT-2015 13:58 PM IST
Pooja was in labor ward giving birth to our baby. I was finding words to give birth to this blog.

As per my wife Pooja's desire, we hosted a wonderful dinner to our family at her dad's place on Friday evening 16, Oct 2015. She loves to be  center of attention and thoroughly attended by people during this entire phase of her pregnancy. She was due on 24, Oct 2015 and only few days to count, who would dare to say 'NO' to her wishes. She knew it and she was brilliantly en-cashing it. Right now, nothing is more important than keeping Pooja and baby happy, safe and content. Everything else has been blurred and has become immaterial, inconsequential, inconsiderable, indifferent, insignificant and irrelevant. 

She was due for few routine tests and scans on Saturday, 17 Oct 2015. So we started the day early in the morning by watching Salman's movie "Bajarangi Bai Jaan", which relaxed her a bit. After running tests and scans till noon, Doctors were alarmed by insufficient fluid in her womb or uterus but said nothing to worry at this stage. But that "Nothing to worry" statement is unavoidable trigger for many other worries. After running repeated tests, doctors were reluctant to wait till due date and advised us to immediately admit her to labor ward to keep her under observations for a day. We just followed doctor advice and got her admitted. 

Pooja was calm and relaxed as she had one full week to enjoy her pregnancy. With these recent quick developments, she got scared and was worried and started crying. She looked like cutest baby is crying to give birth to another baby. We got confidence when we evidenced Doctor consoling Pooja like we console school kid who was scared of her exams. Best gift what Pooja has is - she looks wonderful and cute all time and in all forms of emotions. Day, noon, night, sad, happy, angry, hatred.  You name any type of feeling, her face has the capability to maintain same level of beauty and innocence. Especially in the early morning sleeps, her face seems like sunlight trying to hide behind a sheet of morning mist. 

Doctor said to Pooja "Hey Pooja, Are you scared? Why are you worried? You are now on right hands and in right hospital. You will be under constant observation of best staff. Are you not happy and excited to finally see your baby? Did you not wait for nine long months for this?".

This comforted her. Pooja just nodded with a blink smile on her face. I was happy the way doctor is handling her emotions.
Doctor continued to Pooja "Do you want to keep your baby inside forever? Where do you find schools inside your womb?". We all laughed at it. Doc said "It was supposed to happen anyway in a week. We are just preponing the delivery for the good of mom and baby. So stop worrying and stay happy and enjoy the process". Pooja agreed and gave a broad smile this time. 


Doctor took me to her room and explained the process, options, risks and possibilities. I trusted her. I just left it her to best of her knowledge to take decisions. Then doctor said this wonderful thing to me "Look Rahul, If I get an opportunity to make a wish to God, then I will make two wishes. First I will ask God to keep only boys on the earth and take out all the girls. I cannot see girls through this emotional and physical suffering. If God doesn't agree to that, then I will ask him to keep only one type of delivery process in the world. Either Normal delivery or C-section. It's very hard and tiring process for both doctors and guardians to decide. I hope you understand what am saying. All the best. You both are going to be good parents". I vaguely smiled and nodded. I have understood more than what she said. I wished her good luck and left her room. I informed the same to our parents. 

She was kept under observation for a night. There was nothing much we can do but waiting till morning of Sunday, 18 Oct 2015. Of course, except for taking selfies whenever Pooja came out to meet us. That would cheer her up. I gave her a personality development book to read and provide last minute training to the baby to prepare itself before it's gonna see our world :) :) Last minute tips and notes has always helped me to perform better in main exams/interviews. Me and my brother stayed back at hospital. I spent night updating this news to our friends and well wishers. Excitement bar raised and reached a all new level. 
We got a chance to talk to Pooja twice in the morning, before staff started inducing pain in her through medicines. By 10:30 AM, she slowly picked up the pain. Doctors were informed. Ward room was reserved. Prayers and wishes started pouring for Pooja. I kept updating on the status to people in Whatsapp groups. By around 11:30 AM, Doctor came said she is hopeful for the normal delivery and would wait till 3:00 PM. If Pooja doesn't get expected amount of pain till then, then Doctor said she don't want to take risks and she would opt for cesarean. We agreed. Tension in me started raising. I started picturing Pooja enduring this pain process. That was the tiniest hole of weakness it was looking for. Once the hole is found, all kind of emotions kept breaking inside me just like water breaks out when gates were open in the dam. I went for a long walk and regained control and stayed positive. Just to keep myself busy I started writing this blog. 

We got a chance to meet Pooja and talked to her for a minute at around 12:20 PM. She said she is getting back pain not labor pain. She looked tired. We were worried again. Contrary to other operations, in this case pain is positive sign. Person should not feel comfortable. She should get and endure severe labor pain. So we waited with our fingers crossed.


Bulk of patience she posed, 38 weeks of waiting, tens of medical consultations, exposing to tests and scans, abundance of love and loads of care she spent has finally bearing a fruit today. In fact a healthy fruit with full of life. I had to take a soulful journey to redefine myself  before i see this fruit. Our home was deserted without kids since more than two decades. Last memory I have is of my brother Roshan playing around when he was kid. 

We had few hours more to kill. I had a quick lunch in hospital canteen. Came back to labor ward and sent our parents to have lunch. At 01:30 PM, a labor staff came out and congratulated me. "Congratulations sir, it's a baby girl". I was grandly surprised and was hard to believe. I told her "Are you sure? I might have been mistaken. Am husband of Pooja. We were expecting after 03:00 PM". She said "Yes sir. But Pooja got labor early than expected and she gave birth to a baby girl. It was normal delivery. Congratulations again". I knew she was telling truth. Surprise was heavy to digest. Pooja's grandma joined me. One more staff and Doctor brought our baby out of labor ward. I tried to hold the baby. But I couldn't. My hand were shivering out of excitement. My eyes were filled. I just thanked our doctor and staff and came out to inform our parents and well wishers.

Now a ray of light has arrived from the sky. She has the power to transform anything and everything. She can heal hearts to remove hatred and will fill happiness and love. She has given rebirth to all of us and will take us back to our childhood. We have to recall and relearn all the forgotten naughtiness, games, poems, rhymes, gifts and toys. Our home will be filled with joy and peace. Green around our home will welcome this little queen. 

One is born, rest are reborn.

With Love,
RaDa