Shall discuss over a coffee :)

These days am writing poems for everything. Happy, sad, party etc etc. I opened a real estate page in facebook for my friend. I happened to write a poem to endorse my page. And I liked it. Good job RaDa😊

Shall discuss over a coffee:

You ask for an agent, 

               we'll give you a friend.

You ask for a house,

               we'll give you a home.                                   
You name a place, 

               we'll find you a palace.                                   
It will not stop there,

               that's just your first gear.            
We  will get you loans,

               that's easy to bear.                            
We live in Mysore,

               you can find us in our lobby.

Give us a call, 

           we shall discuss over a coffee.

With Love,

RaDa

Tons of moments to cherish (A poem dedicated to Pooja)

Couple of  our friends gathered in a hotel to throw a surprise party to my wife Pooja. I wrote a poem on our journey so far and dedicated to Pooja. 

It's hell of a story to tell,

Tons of moments to cherish.

My life car was broke and was waiting for a jack,

You gave a lift, which brought my life back.

I was not going left, I was not going right,

I was literally blind, till you shed some light.

My mom always needed a daughter,

You filled that place with a loads of laughter.

You carried your role with so much passion,

How you handled with such a ease is my biggest question.

I was silent and I was quite,

With your presence, am now a flying kite.

Friends, colleagues, room mates and couples,

We were everything without much troubles.

I left house in urge of finding truth,

It was like tasteless chewing, without my tooth.

It was your love I missed the most,

Now am back, we should raise a toast.

Eight months before we sowed a life seed,

Am amazed and happy to see its growing speed.

We are gonna be mom n dad in few weeks,

We will celebrate now like country freaks.

With Love,

RaDa

It's time to find myself (A letter i wrote to Pooja before my divine journey)

Dear Pooja,

I wanted to get away for a while. No phones, no contacts, no known destinations, no proper itinerary, with not much money, no trails, no work, no responsibilities, into a far strange world. When i told my desire to you, you were so much worried and resisted me not to do so. Obviously every pregnant woman would like her husband to be with her. I very much understand that. Over a discussion, i had to unconditionally surrender to your request and decided to consult a Psychiatrist. He was in hurry to leave for that day, listened to us for few minutes, tagged me as one "Depressed Person", prescribed some medication and gave few casual advises. Utterly waste of money. If had spent the same money over a party, my friends would have given me much better advises than him when they are drunk. 

I have been thinking why i am being diagnosed with so called "Depression". Good that i took few weeks break from work and other responsibilities and just sat at home in the day time reading books, watching few wonderful movies and writing blogs.  In the evening, i used to go for very long walk, no specific route, no specific distance, all alone. Walk till my thoughts and questions on that particular day will end with conclusions.

After writing that blog "Am i in depression? Am i not", i realized that am actually not in any kind of depression. I was doing so damn good. I was just talking truth with people. I was expressing my real concerns on society around us. With very few people of-course. Anyways, lot of people who have turned from human beings to mechanical robots have lost the ability to digest the truth. One of them who can actually understand and accept the truth is you. You slowly realized that whatever i was talking, was very much sensible and true. 

I did't utter a word on my plans with anyone. They are not good listeners. They would be very scared and worried about me. Worst thing, they would play highly emotional dramas, that would have been pushed all of us into "Depression". All of us would have needed a Psychiatrist. 

30 years long after arriving, however, i have started feeling "corrupted" by modern civilization and i have decided to go away for a while and find myself. I just want to walk into the wild,  content with the isolation, living in remote areas, helping strangers, reading books and keeping a dairy for my thoughts as I prepare myself for a new life.  I do not want anyone to know what am doing or  where am going, and i refuse to keep in touch with all of you after my departure. This will  leave everyone to become increasingly anxious and eventually desperate sometimes. I take this opportunity to beg you all to accept this with open heart and respect my decision.

A trance-like state settles over my efforts; the climb becomes a clear-eyed dream. Hours will slide by like minutes. The accumulated clutter of day-to-day existence—the lapses of conscience, the unpaid bills, the bungled opportunities, the dust under the couch, the inescapable prison of my genes—all of will be temporarily forgotten, crowded from my thoughts by an overpowering clarity of purpose and by the seriousness of the task at hand.

You must know i love you very much. So much that am taking this risk for our future. You need to be very strong, calm, healthy and happy. Financial Commitments and Details are in Notes in my iPhone. Take care of saplings recently planted. I have earned few finest friends. Am not gonna name them here, otherwise they will be entitled to help you in my absence. Please accept any kind of help offered to you without a pinch of hesitation. We will pay them back when i return back. Get a book and start documenting whatever you feel and experience from Day.

You should not worry about me. I promise i will take good care of myself. No negative thoughts. I promise no one can stop me from getting back to you. You should not cry. Save your tear droplets for me till i get back. I will turn them into finest pearls. My news is gonna be biggest blockbuster in our family and friends circle. People will start talking weird things behind you and sometimes with you. They will start creating stories on my past, present and future. Don't listen to any of them and do whatever you need to do. Pool of sympathy, advises, questions, rumors, support will be showered on you from all corners. Please try to accept all of them with utmost humble, assertive and positive attitude. Don't be mean to anyone.

I promise i will get back to you :)

With love, logging out @ 4:00 AM, 06-Jul-2015
RD

Am I in depression? Am I not?

Am I in depression? That's what doctor told so. 

Anyways lets find out what made me to be depressed.

What is it with this creature called "Human Being"?

Why does he always crave for change? Change of place, change of job, change of love, change of wants and needs.

Why can't stay in one place, have a job to earn, a family to feed, friends to cherish and a vehicle to commute?

What is it with me? Why i always write philosophical blogs? Why have i stopped writing

skits and comedy plays? Because, even my words will become fake and my expressions will become pale when i try to write comedy when am not happy. May be am facing a mid-life crisis as i just crossed 30 :)

So here i come. Why am i not happy? What is it bothering me? I would say so many things are running in my mind right now. I was most disturbed when few of my colleagues got laid off from our company. I could not express my feelings. I could not arrange for proper send off. Am the lead. I had my role  to keep the team intact and professional. I was helpless even i was being projected as the only responsible person who picked people to let go. Obviously i was hurt and frustrated. Gradually my mind started thinking about matters which are bothering the world. I was slowly submerging into a pool of worries.

If we consider, thousands of year ago, most of our ancestors used to live like that. A few acres of land in a village for living and a happy joint happy family with kids, uncles, aunties, brothers, sisters, grandpa and grandma. There was no wish greater than feeding family and meeting their basic needs. There was no greed. A miniature RAMARAJYA in every home. There used to be a member who heads and make every decision in the family. All others used to unconditionally bowed to his decisions. Trust was valued with words, respect was evident with honesty, gratitude was to help, guests were treated with love, education full of common sense, humanity was considered to be rich. 

What now? No united families. Everyone in the family is considered to be head of the

family. Hesitation to take responsibilities. Pathetic job. Sending away children on job to other countries is still considered as mark of prestige. We are forced to do what we don't like to do. And we infinitely keep dreaming of things that we like to do. Affection and love is being measured by gifts. Ok to spend thousands on parties. NOT OK to give away a fraction for charity. Politics is no more a service and has become a symbol of money. Money has become symbol of status. Religions have become symbol of hatred. Trust has remained just in dictionary. Caring is being forcible. 

Friends are in facebook. Communication in whatsapp and skype. 1000 channels in TV but no time to watch. News have become a circus. Adventure are for taking pictures. Kids are being made obsessed with gadgets. Education without common sense. Playing grounds are turned into apartments. Lakes are polluted. Parks are populated. Drinking water are being charged. Oxygen theaters are being introduced to get good air. Food has become slow poison. Villages are becoming old age homes. Farmers are committing suicide. Hundreds and thousands of tons of food and food grains are being wasted. Contrary, billions of people are suffering from malnutrition. Millions turn up in gym, aerobics, dance classes, yoga etc to keep them fit by paying fortunes. Contrary, only few turn up for voluntary works which will also make them burn calories and keep them fit. More than 20% of our country's currency are fake notes.

Enough reasons for me to be depressed? Am so worried about coming generations. What they will turn this world into?

World is going very fast. World is being insensitive. World is greed. Richest 100 people holds over 80% of the wealth in the world. Remaining 20% of the wealth is shared by the rest. Am talking about wealth in billions of people are not even able to match 100 people in the world. Crony Capitalism is the biggest threat than terrorism. Then rich show off in the news paper by giving away a fraction in charities. Very generous.


I will give you one simple example why am worried about this world. I have not gone to office since 3 weeks. Only few know that am not well. Others have just noted my absence in my desk. None. Not even a single person called me or texted me to check on me. How can you expect team work from a team like this? Very funny. Unfortunately this is the world we are living in.

I only wish people understand this as soon as possible and turn this world a better living place. Good Luck.

With Love,
RD

Journey of a dark kid to become a green parent

Journey of a dark kid to become a green parent

Changes are so obvious in one’s personality when you consider various phases of life from birth to death. If I look back in my life, I certainly can see lot of changes in me too.

I was very influenced by my dad before high school. His body language, his ideologies, his restrictions towards money and wealth, his fears, his sense of humor, his love for family and friends, the level of trust he had gained from people, the level of trust he had on the society, his patience, his way of bringing up kids etc etc etc. (If I tell more on my dad, I become emotional and I won’t be able to talk anything but my dad in this blog. I will stop now.). So I was going to become my dad. People started calling me with his name. I was worried.

I got a chance to work on it, when our parents decided to live in our village to look after their business and left us back in Mysore to continue education.  Changes started more evident from my high school days. That’s when I started reading outside my academics. I was curious about outside world. Am still curious now. I started meeting more and more strangers. Few became very good friends of mine on the way. I started reading novels, business/leaders, politics/politicians, sports, entertainment, and economy and so on. I wanted to gain as much knowledge as possible to create my way of life. I wanted to explore my life in my own way. I was trying hard to find definitions myself on each shades of life. I was desperately trying to come out of my dad’s influence.

But on the other side, without my knowledge, my mom’s influence on religious beliefs and customs had taken over me like a virus. I was hanging between self gained ideologies and mom’s gifted religious beliefs. That was a terrible time. More I tried to distance myself from gods, the more fear used to occupy me. I was totally lost in the war of thoughts and I was helpless. I was fully accustomed to creeds, confessions, fear and beliefs. Like others, I too had a list of good and bad based on society’s mindset. This had created a strong concrete fence around me. The knowledge and ideologies I was gaining from reading books was helpless. I was lacking will power. I was inferior. That was the state of me till 2010.

I lost my job in 2010, moved with my friends in Bangalore, went through a terrible break up with my girl friend. I was jobless, hurt, and sober, less confident, bankrupt and dependant on my friends for few months. On top of it, the beliefs on gods started filling more fear. I was coming to a conclusion that only god/s can save me. I started visiting all types of temples every day. I was trusting more on gods and gradually losing confident on my capabilities. I was waiting for a miracle to happen. I was frustrated and pathetic.

I knew time had come to act on it. I started to question myself. I started analyzing people who are in same path as mine. Many are doing good but rest are still struggling in spite of their strong beliefs towards gods and in spite of doing so called good things. So these beliefs on religion and gods didn’t make sense to me for the first time. But I was not strong enough to leave my 25years of beliefs in one day and start new life from very next day. I was jobless too. I didn’t want to take risks at all. What if I am wrong? Fear again.

So I charted a plan of 2-3 years, to gradually to come out of beliefs on religion. But I had to choose someone to follow. I chose Basavanna’s ideologies and chose Nature as my god. Both of them are obvious choices for me for two strong reasons.

1. Basavanna was an Indian philosopher, statesman, Kannada poet and a social reformer who was lived in Karnataka, India between 1134–1196. He fought against the practice of the caste system, which discriminated against people based on their birth, gender and other rituals in Hinduism. He spread social awareness through his poetry, popularly known as Vachanaas. Basavanna used Ishtalinga, an image of the Śiva Liṅga, to eradicate untouchability, to establish equality among all human beings and as a means to attain spiritual enlightenment. He created a model Parliament called the Anubhava Mantapa, which not only gave equal representation to men and women but also had representatives from different socio-economic backgrounds.
2. Choosing Nature as my god was more logical. I always wanted a god you can see, touch, feel, talk to and who is actually taking care of all living beings in the universe. So I made a pact with Nature. I take care of you and you take care of me. Win-win agreement. I started using bi-cycle, very limited usage of plastics, payment made to organizations of environmentalists. If I need to say in one sentence, I was becoming more environment friendly. I considered myself a profound child of nature which anyway is so true and we all are.

It worked. By 2012, I declared myself as free man from earlier beliefs on religion and gods. I was free from beliefs on good and bad. I was more confident; less worried and had more clarity on life than ever. I started going to places where life was taking and started doing things I desired to do. No restrictions at all. All I had to do is, I should take care that my acts won’t hurt Mother Nature any way or I should have a workaround to compensate her loss. I kept as simple as possible. For example, if I buy a car, I need to make sure of its limited usage and plant more trees. It was that simple to me. And I made sure that certain percentage of my savings being spent on charity and community works. This cleared any left around guilt feeling in me.

I appeared to be slowly developing a strong bonding with nature. My parents adopted two saplings planted by our land developer in front our house. After I got job in Mysore (my home town) and started living with my parents, brother and wife, I developed a comfortable attachment with those two plants. I enjoyed looking them growing. We planted two more saplings but of different kind, in front of our house. I adopted new plants and became their caretaker. I protected them from animals and summer sun, made sure they get watered daily in summer, and nurtured with natural fertilizer in timely manner.  This followed for 2 years. I felt proud and was happy to see their growth. Now both of them have grown considerably. I felt like am a parent to both of them. I talk to them, share all moments with them. Now they no longer need my care anymore. I can only sit back and watch their growth like a proud parent. They are now taking care of us with shades and good air. I started enjoying their company. They are my first kids.

With no more expectation from them, I didn’t know what else to do. I was becoming lazy. So I decided to plant and adopt more trees. Now am a proud parent for 15 trees which are at different growth levels and many flower plants around our home.

Being jobless for few months in 2010 is best thing happened to me till date. My journey as green parent will continue…

With Love,

RD

IT Family 2.0 - A Play

 IT FAMILY 2.0

                                             

CHARACTERS
WIFE
HUSBAND
SON
DAUGHTER
FIRST HUSBAND/DOG



[A beautiful house. A good-looking WIFE cleaning her beautiful living room.  
The front door opens and HUSBAND enters.]

[Battameez dil battameez dil]

HUSBAND: Hi, Honey!  I’m home!

WIFE: Who are you?  What are you doing in my house?!

HUSBAND: I’m your new husband baby.  Where should I put my coat?

[He tries to hug WIFE, but she backs away from him terrified.]

WIFE: Don’t touch me!  I’ll scream!  I’ll call the police!

HUSBAND: Cool Down Babby..! Aren’t you going to ask how my day was?

WIFE: [Evanyaako Bittogo Thara Kaantha illa.. Swalpa divert maadona] 
How … how was your day?

HUSBAND: It was awful!  Just like every other day!  Same old boring job, boss, life, Wife. And then, on the way home, suddenly it hit to me—why come home to the same old boring wife and house and kids and dog when I could try something new?

WIFE: But … I already have a husband.

HUSBAND: Eurekaaa! I have an idea! He can have my wife.  Where does he work?

WIFE: He’s an IT engineer.

HUSBAND: Perfect!  I love technology!  All those little gadgets and stuff!  It’ll be great!

WIFE: Look, I’m … I’m sorry your life is so boring.  My life is boring too.  But you can’t just walk in here and expect us to—

HUSBAND: Oh!  I almost forgot! Look Here! I brought you flowers!

[He shows a bouquet of flowers from his coat.]

WIFE: You brought me flowers?

HUSBAND: They’re orchids—a symbol of rare beauty and eternal love—my love for you.

WIFE: My … my husband hasn’t brought me flowers in almost fifteen years.

HUSBAND: I wrote you a song too.

WIFE: A song?

HUSBAND: [Tum hi ho song from Ashiqui2 movie]

WIFE: That’s beautiful.  You … you really wrote that?

HUSBAND: Only for you.

[Pause.  She considers this.]


WIFE: Do you pee in the shower?

HUSBAND: Never.

WIFE: Snore?

HUSBAND: I don’t think so.

WIFE: Any history of baldness in your family?

HUSBAND: On the contrary.  We’re very hairy.

WIFE: Anniversary in Ooty or Goa?

HUSBAND:  Both.

WIFE: Watch Cricket or do me in the kitchen?

HUSBAND: Do you really have to ask?

[He moves closer to kiss her]

WIFE: Easy, Tiger.  You’ll have to win the kids over first.  Children! [Enter SON and DAUGHTER.] Children, meet your new father.

HUSBAND: Hi, kids.

SON: You’re not my father!  You’re a fake!  An imposter!

WIFE: Heyyyyyy!

HUSBAND: Honey please! Let me handle it! Do you like Cricket?

SON: Sure.

HUSBAND: I’ll take you to the Big Game.

SON: The Big Game?!  No way! [He embraces HUSBAND.] I love you, Dad!

DAUGHTER: What about me?  I hate Cricket.

HUSBAND: Do you like shopping?

DAUGHTER: Duh.

HUSBAND: Here—knock yourself out.

[He hands her a hundred rupee bill.]

DAUGHTER: A hundred rupee bill?!  You’re the greatest!

WIFE: Go play in your room, kids.  Your father and I need some time alone.

DAUGHTER: Sure thing, Mom.

SON: See ya later, Dad.

WIFE: Let me call my husband and ask him  to come home. [Tick Tick Tick]
Helloooo!

FIRST HUSBAND: Hi Darling, what are you doing Darling?

WIFE: I’m dying..!

FIRST HUSBAND: Don't die dear!  how can I live without you?

WIFE: You fool! I am dying my hair..

FIRST HUSBAND: Bloody English Language!

WIFE: Can you come home ASAP?

FIRST HUSBAND: Will be home in a minute!

[Car speeding sound]

FIRST HUSBAND: Hi, Honey!  I’m … 

[A sad but funny song for original husband entry]

what’s going on here?!  Who are you man?!

HUSBAND: Who are you by the way?

FIRST HUSBAND: I’m calling the police!

WIFE: Wait!  Give me the house key.

FIRST HUSBAND: What?

WIFE: Your key.  Hand it over.

FIRST HUSBAND: I don’t understand.

WIFE: He’s replacing you.

FIRST HUSBAND: Replacing me?

WIFE: That’s right.  He’s in—you’re out.

FIRST HUSBAND: But why?!


WIFE: He brought me flowers!  When’s the last time you brought me flowers?!

FIRST HUSBAND: I—

WIFE: Exactly.  Now stop stuttering and hand over the key.

FIRST HUSBAND: But … what about the kids?!  You can’t take the kids away from me!  
Kids! 




[Enter SON and DAUGHTER.] You don’t want me to go—do you kids?

SON: He’s taking me to the Big Game.

FIRST HUSBAND: I’ll take you!

SON: Too late.  You had your chance.

FIRST HUSBAND: But—

DAUGHTER: Sorry.  It’s nothing personal.

WIFE: [Her hand outstretched] The key.

FIRST HUSBAND: But I don’t want to go!  Please, I’ll … I’ll do anything!  Just let me stay!  
I won’t bother you!  I’ll stay out of the way!  I’ll … I’ll be another kid!  Or the family dog!

SON: I’ve always wanted a dog!
Please?!  Can I keep him?!  Can I?!

WIFE: I don’t know.  What do you think, Honey?

HUSBAND: Wellll, I don't know either!

SON: I’ll take care of him!  I promise! 
[To FIRST HUSBAND/DOG.] Come here, boy!  Sit!  Roll over!  Play dead!  Good boy!

FIRST HUSBAND/DOG: Woof!  Woof!


[The whole scene is just a bad dream for First Husband. Wife who listned to his scream, wakes him up. He then realize what he seen was just a dream and realize how much he is ignoring his family because of his hectic work.]

FIRST HUSBAND: Its a dream! Oh My God! Its just a bloody dream! I will never ingnore you my darling, kids and family for my work! 
Oh my god! I will never do that again!

[The play ends]

With Love,
RD

An year passed like Usain Bolt!

First monsoon shower of words from Pooja!
 

Chinnaa..

It’s been a year since we got engaged !! Days passed so soon, just in a blink of eye !!  I can still feel and remember the day when u came home with a blue shirt and running nose :P . I can still remember that smile , when u saw me !! J . The day when we passed more than 2 hours sharing things , I cursing time that went so fast ! .   The night at Chitravana when u eagerly want to know my answer !   

 The first day when I entered your home in Bangalore, I was so nervous my heart was pounding ! My mind was saying not to go, but my heart was dying to stay with you for more time, so I followed my heart  and to mention I can’t forget the taste of Mixed Dosa which u fed me !!

 How can I forget the wonderful day when I stayed back at your place ! I was waiting for a single word from you “ Stay back “ finally you said it !! I was on Cloud 9 !! J I could hear my heart beat when I slept beside you !! I dint expect but it came like a monsoon wind the first Kiss , I still get goose bumps when I think about it !!

 The day when you went on your Knees , I was flying high ! The way you decorated with flowers it was magical. !! The pretty gifts showed me how much you love me ! The silver jewelry is the reflection of  your love !  The ear ring which you wearing is the symbol of our love ! ! Ahh.I was a Pari on that day,  I can’t never forget that day !!

 I felt bad when are marriage dates were fixed, because of long gap  from Jan to Sep 9 months ;) !!  Your love and affection turned tat 9 long months to very short period !! You made me an angel in your life which am proud of ! You made my life as Heaven on Earth . J I am blessed with your Love, Care and Affection. Each and every day which I spent with you in Jaynagar Home I can never forget in my entire life !!  Those days made us so close and I got a chance to know what a wonderful person you are ! Your love, your natgat, the way you tease me has made my life so romantic. ! I am truly blessed to get a Wonderful Husband like you !

Finally my dream come true when u knot me with your Love ! Wow what a wonderful day it was !!! The day when I officially entered your home ;) was amazing, I felt so loved..:) I am truly blessed to get all love and affection from Amma and Appa.. ! J You have made my life so wonderful which I can’t express through words ! I could have said this to you in personnel but sharing with you in words make me feel wonderful

 Still there are no words to share  my love to you sweetheart ! Thanks for everything baby !! I am very much blessed to have you in my Life.. J

 Love u !!!

 

Pooja